A cancerous restlestness is consuming us

So much of our unhappiness comes from comparing our lives, our friendships, our loves, our commitments, our duties, our bodies and our sexuality to some idealized and non-Christian vision of things which falsely assures us that there is a heaven on earth.

When that happens, and it does, our tensions begin to drive us mad, in this case to a cancerous restlessness.—Ronald Rolheiser, Forgotten among the Lilies: Learning to Love beyond the Fears, 16